These days, you may encounter many rejections during your job campaign. Fear and negative emotions can easily take over as you begin to ask yourself questions – “How long will I be without a job?” “Am I going to survive?” “Will I loose my home?” The best way to get through the process is to accept fear is a normal part of the process and you must learn to manage it. A good way to start is by taking care of your personal well-being. Here are a few steps to get you started.
1. Face your feelings. Getting turned down may trigger difficult emotions such as anger or anxiety. You are reacting from a negative, fear-based place. Never allow anyone to determine how you feel. Look for the positive in the situation and know there is something better out there for you.
2. Have a support team. Consider talking to other jobseekers; they may provide valuable leads. Be careful to not get caught in the trap of misery loves company. You do not want to be around people that are bringing you down and discouraging you; unsuccessful job seekers can do this. Be open with family and friends and let them know how they can help you. Connect with your local workforce development program or consider working with a Career Coach.
3. Get moving. Exercise is a great way to relieve stress and will help you stay focused. Exercise stimulates activity in your brain that leaves you feeling energized, happy and relaxed. You do not need to buy a gym membership, walking is one of the best forms of exercise and being in nature is an added benefit.
4. Manage stress. Your job search is a very stressful time and you need to learn ways to manage the stress. I already mentioned exercise but listening to music, dancing, yoga and talking to a friend are also great stress relievers. Also, learn to center yourself, calm your thoughts and mind through deep breathing exercises. Find strength in your spiritual practices and/or meditation.
5. Laugh out loud. Laughter is still the best medicine. A good laugh can change the way you feel right away. Watch a funny movie, read a funny book or share a laugh with friends. It will help you focus, relieve pressure and remind you, I will find a job soon.
Finding a job can be stressful, overwhelming and challenging. You may not get the first, second or even third job you apply for. Keeping a positive attitude and taking care of yourself during the process can impact how long it takes for you to get a job. For those searching for a job, the online program, 5 Steps to Rapid Employment is a great place to start, you can find out more here – 5 Steps to Rapid Employment. Remember, each rejection will bring you one step closer to the position that is right for you – hang in there and don’t give up!
Carolyn R. Owens is a Career Strategist, Leadership and Life Coach and Chairwoman and CEO of Infinity Coaching, Inc. If you would like additional tips and strategies for career and leadership development visit the website at www.infinitycoaching.net or email Carolyn at cowens@infinitycoaching.net.
